Haaaappy Friday! Some interesting links to go with your morning coffee (or tea) this weekend, but then again, shouldn’t we all be outside enjoying these last dog days of summer?
New York City has been gorgeous, and I’m heading to Malibu next week for my brother’s wedding. I couldn’t be happier for him and his beautiful bride — I am convinced that our two families won the in-law lottery. Nice work T-Bones & G-Bones — can’t wait to celebrate with you in one short week!!!
And before we jump in, today on Life After College I share my thoughts on why you don’t have to love your job today. I’m leading a two-hour hands-on career planning workshop on September 11 for those of you ready to strategize about what’s next.
- Chela Davidson on Saying No: Boundaries for Soulful Living
- Need to make a stronger case with your inner people-pleaser for saying no? Seth Godin reinforces why it’s so important to conserve mental bandwidth in “Do you have three minutes?”
- Wise words from Paul Angone — and not just for twenty-somethings! Where do you have room to build your own muscles within The Twentysomething Declaration?
- Fast Company on The One Easy Daily Habit That Makes Life More Awesome
- I really liked this article in Yoga Journal on Surrendering to Silence
- From BrainPickings.org — The Magic of Metaphor: What Children’s Minds Teach Us about the Evolution of the Imagination:
“Metaphorical thinking — our instinct not just for describing but for comprehending one thing in terms of another, for equating I with an other — shapes our view of the world, and is essential to how we communicate, learn, discover, and invent.
Metaphor is a way of thought long before it is a way with words.
This is one of the marvels of metaphor. Fresh, successful metaphors do not depend on conventional pre-existing associations. Instead, they highlight novel, unexpected similarities not particularly characteristic of either the source or the target — at least until the metaphor itself points them out.”
- Avocado Health Facts: 6 Things You Didn’t Know – I’ll make this one easy for you so you don’t even have to click: it’s a fruit (specifically a berry — who knew?!), has more potassium than a banana, ripens faster with a banana or an apple around, one of only a few high-protien fruits, you can swap it in a baked goods recipe for butter, and reap its benefits on your hair and skin too. Shazam! Super food!
- Somewhat common knowledge by now, but the NYT Well Blog confirms How Exercise Can Help Us Sleep Better
- On the subject of sleep, a new study shows that consistency matters: Catch-Up Sleep Won’t Make Your Brain Work Any Better (it’s why I’ve never believed in that whole “I’ll sleep when I’m old/dead” thing. No way. Give me at least 8 hours, or keep your distance!)
- Prevention.com reflects on How much coffee is too much? (1-2 cups a day and you’ll be fine . . . detrimental health effects really kick in after 5)
- A recent study quantified the costs of NOT eating enough fruits and veggies: Neglecting To Eat An Apple A Day Is Keeping Trillions Of Dollars Away
- I harp on sugar only because I love it so much! Another reminder to take it in SMALL doses: Sugar even at moderate levels toxic to mice health, reproduction
- Here’s an interesting article on the unintended consequences of sleeping pills: To Judge Sleep Aids, U.S. Looks at Drowsy Driving in the Morning
- As much as I love tracking everything, this article makes a great point: Can The Quantified Self Go Too Far?
- Emily Sandford reflects in Food is Not a Painkiller — A great reminder about the futility of emotional eating, albeit a tough thing to stay mindful about when you’re in the midst of an emotional storm
- What’s Your Definition of Success? Jennifer Racioppi summarizes a conversation between Oprah and one of her guests (an author who earned then lost millions) on money as a proxy for “inner” wealth:
“The money is a metaphor and always is a metaphor for your true worth. To me, you handled the money as you saw yourself… The money and the acquisition of the money was all a metaphor for worth . . . for true worthiness. True success is the feeling of reward and self respect that you feel for yourself.”
—Oprah, via Jennifer Racioppi
- Love this exercise from Bernadette Jiwa — I often do something similar with my coaching clients: A Better Business In 5 Minutes And 3 Easy Steps (Ask/Reflect/Journal on the question, “What will your customer say to her friend tomorrow to recommend you or your products and services?”
- Think the location independent lifestyle is nothing but a dream? Benny writes an honest take on the pitfalls in The many problems with being a long-term vagabond without a base
- On a related note, Inc. Magazine also takes an in-depth look at The Psychological Price of Entrepreneurship:
“Successful entrepreneurs achieve hero status in our culture. We idolize the Mark Zuckerbergs and the Elon Musks. And we celebrate the blazingly fast growth of the Inc. 500 companies. But many of those entrepreneurs, like Smith, harbor secret demons: Before they made it big, they struggled through moments of near-debilitating anxiety and despair–times when it seemed everything might crumble.
Until recently, admitting such sentiments was taboo. Rather than showing vulnerability, business leaders have practiced what social psychiatrists call impression management–also known as “fake it till you make it.”
—The Psychological Price of Entrepreneurship
- Ever paid attention to how you stand when talking to co-workers or potential clients? The Wall Street Journal describes How ‘Power Poses’ Can Help Your Career
- I really liked this quote from the NYT Corner Office interview with Dane Atkinson (and wholeheartedly agree!):
“One reason entrepreneurship is so amazing — and one of the reasons I recommend it to everybody — is that unlike most other career paths, it is the purest lens for looking at yourself. If you’re in a big operation, you can blame the surrounding environment. When you’re starting your own company, it’s just you. There really is nothing else. So you have to take that medicine at its purest form, which I think matures you as a person faster.” —Dane Atkinson
- Cal Newport on why Your Career is Not a Disney Movie:
“These (literally) childish plot devices are eerily similar to the popular conversations surrounding career planning. The passion culture tells us that the key to an extraordinary life is to look deep, be true to your inner passion, and courageously ignore the naysayers as you pursue your dream.
If you study real people who build remarkable lives in the real world, you find their paths are more nuanced, more complicated, and usually quite a bit more interesting. These paths tend to involve quite a bit of hard work — much of it conventional — and don’t tend to involve a lot of bold resistance to the status quo. (Society, it turns out, doesn’t care what you do for a living. It cares more about how well you do what you do.)” —Cal Newport
Just for Fun
Awesome, funny, candid stories and personal philosophy in this SiriusXM interview between Jerry Seinfeld and Howard Stern — get comfortable, it’s 90 minutes long.
Jerry Seinfeld on success, practice, anxiety, creativity, awkward early days, the “slog through the sewer” and much, much more (via Mitch Joel):
“I’m never not working on new material. Ever. Every second of my existence I’m thinking, ‘Can I do something with that?'”
“The blessing in life is when you find the torture you are comfortable with. That’s marriage, it’s kids, it’s work, it’s exercise. Find the torture you’re comfortable with and you’ll do well. You’ve mastered that, you’ve mastered life.”
“When you’re really evolved you can just do things. Stop talking about it.”