Frustrated trying to figure out your “life purpose”? Try this one.

How many of you have felt pressure to define your passion, your life purpose, or a business or blog niche more clearly? There’s so much career and business advice that says, “Whatever you come up with, get even more specific!”

More than anything, this has caused me more anxiety than peace.

I have always felt my life purpose, or calling, was to help others, but when I tried to “niche it down” I got stuck. And more than that, bored.

I love Cal Newport’s message from his book, So Good They Can’t Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love, to drop the pursuit of passion and adopt a “craftsman mindset” instead. Newport says, “Stop obsessing about what the world can offer you, and instead focus on what you can offer the world.”

In a recent blog post, he cites a recent Barak Obama quote on losing his first bid for congress:

“The thing that got me through that moment, and any other time that I’ve felt stuck, is to remind myself that it’s about the work. Because if you’re worrying about yourself — if you’re thinking: ‘Am I succeeding? Am I in the right position? Am I being appreciated?’  — then you’re going to end up feeling frustrated and stuck. But if you can keep it about the work, you’ll always have a path. There’s always something to be done.”

—President Obama (via Cal Newport’s Study Hacks blog)

My Own Wandering Purpose Path

When I first launched Life After College in 2005, it was under the stated purpose of “helping young professionals feel more fulfilled in their lives and work.” I had a hard time choosing a specific subject area within that, given that the book and blog cover everything from relationships to money to happiness to the latest tech tools.

And yet, I am glad I didn’t put pressure on myself to choose just one of those topics, or even a more specific age group.

While that purpose statement helped a little bit, it quickly stared to shift and expand in the years that followed. When I launched JennyBlake.me in 2013 it was about “how to move beyond burnout and thrive at the intersection of mind, body and business.” Then it shifted to “systems at the intersection of mind, body and business.”

Now, systems seem too limiting! I’m writing a book on how to figure out what’s next called The Pivot Method, which is only tangentially related to those subjects. But even as I’m writing the book, I realized there’s a step after that!

I am deeply curious about how to generate a feeling of momentum in life and work. Beyond the accomplishments themselves: a feeling of exhilaration, fun, ease, and wind in our hair, no matter what each of us is working on.

When I try to get more specific about my purpose, I now remember that it need only serve me for a project or two, then it’s perfectly okay to zoom back out to a broader calling, one that is universally useful to us all.

Frustrated trying to figure out your “life purpose”? Try this one.

The one thing that has brought me peace in my lowest moments is (re)dedicating myself to serving others. That’s it! It doesn’t have to be more complicated than that.

Simply ask: how I be most helpful to the most people? 

It is no coincidence that my two book deals came on the heels of great confusion and turmoil in the years prior. I would never wish suffering upon myself or you, but if it does come your way (which it inevitably will) know that once you are through it, you can transform it by helping others.

Start right where you are

Your mission to be helpful doesn’t have to be on a huge public stage as a public speaker, blogger, or even teacher. Follow the yellow brick road that starts right under your feet.

When I speak with up-and-coming bloggers, I often tell them to drop the idea that they have to have a niche first. Let it come to you. Start with being helpful in any of the ways you know how. Start with your friends and family and expand from there.

And helpful doesn’t have to be academic, audacious or overly complex. Helpful can be humor! Art! Inspiration! Joy! Compassion! The list goes on . . .

A few questions to consider:

  • What do the most people come to you for advice about?
  • What types of information and resources are you most excited to share with others?
  • Take a look at your bookshelf (or Kindle, Feedly or Podcast subscriptions): what themes stand out?
  • What forms of giving, sharing or teaching bring you the most joy?
  • What would you do even if you weren’t being paid for it?
  • Do you happen to have a group of people that you most love working with? This can be a demographic (age, gender) or a psychographic (smart, motivated)

On the subject of mission statements, I have also dropped the language of “change people’s lives” (which I’ve heard a bit in the personal development sphere). I can’t change your life, and you do not necessarily need help.

I just want to be a light that shines on your own brilliance, capability, resourcefulness, and love. I resonate deeply with Michelangelo’s notion that the angel is already inside the marble stone, you just need to keep chipping away the marble to see it. And as you chisel bit by bit, help someone else with their own . . . or many someones.

“Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it.”
—Michaelangelo

You’re Invited: Free 21-Day Momentum Safari

“Small variations in initial conditions have a habit of amplifying in rather momentous ways.”
—Prof. Nigel Clark, Lancaster University

momentum_safari_logoIn April, I’m going to be opening the doors on a private community called Momentum to help all of us generate, accelerate and maintain momentum—in any area of our lives. It will be a place to talk shop, ask me whatever is on your mind about career or self-employment, swap expertise and tools with others, and form mini-mastermind groups. We’ll set a quarterly focus area and support each other in tracking our goals and filling in any gaps as we work toward them.

In the meantime, I’ve created a free three-week course to help get your creative gears turning. Rather than talk to you about Momentum, I want you to experience it! And have a rollicking good time in the process.

What: The 21-Day Momentum Safari is a daily adventure to help you generate movement, play and delight in any area you choose. Each day you will get a small assignment to complete an action, reflection and/or connection, based on themes from different animal avatars. By the end of the three weeks, you will have a renewed sense of lightness, play and exploration . . . and unstoppable momentum!

Where: Online course, delivered to your inbox each day with a platform for tracking your progress

When: Kicks off March 23! Sign-up today and you can get started on some of the preliminary steps, like declaring your focus area and taking a “spirit animal” personality quiz 🙂

Cost: Zilch! It’s free.

Sign-upRight here, baby! Can’t wait to safari with you 🙂

Here’s a preview of what the course looks like:
Momentum Safari


Note: Today’s post is also up at Life After College—apologies to those of you who read both! I wanted to make sure the Momentum announcements were covered in both places 🙂

  • TOPolk

    Thanks JB, I needed this. Keeping it about “the work” and not grinding myself down to one or two passions is probably the best thing I needed to hear.

    • Thanks so much TO, I’m thrilled to hear that! And it’s GREAT to see your name pop up! Hope all is smashingly well with you 😀

  • Often we are confused because we’re afraid to choose the thing that we really want. Here’s what’s worked for me, this question: if I were really selfish, and cared about myself first, and didn’t have any “responsibilities,” then what would I do?

  • Signed up for the 21-Day Momentum Safari.

    • Awesome!! So stoked to have you in it 🙂 Thank you for the Twitter reply too! Sorry for falling of the internet a bit . . . plugging away at this book minute by minute 🙂 Hope all is well with you!

      • No worries. Look forward to reading the book when it comes out!

  • Love your energy Jenny and I also loved Cal’s book, I’m recording a short review soon. Thanks for such a great post! 🙂