Hidey ho, good internet neighbors! A short update and then let’s get down to business: I am going to experiment with publishing these every other week moving forward . . . hopefully there are plenty of links to keep you coffee tawking in-between! This will allow me to focus on my bi-weekly behind-the-business dispatch on the off-weeks, as well as some longer-form writing projects that I would like to share with you sooner than later!
- Important advice on do’s and don’ts for supporting others in the midst of trauma: David Brooks on The Art of Presence.
- The Atlantic on How When Harry Met Sally Explains Inequality — a new study looks at “associative mating” which describes how much marrying someone like yourself (i.e. two college-educated mates) contributes to the income inequality gap.
- But associative mating has other consequences, apparently, if used as a justification to split housework evenly. Lori Gottfried on why she thinks this leads to lower libido: Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?
- Sheesh! It was a week for “mating” articles, but I couldn’t help myself on including this one: Wired’s How to Create the Perfect Online Dating Profile, in 25 Infographics.
- Love this from my friend Nick: How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed and Get the Right Stuff Done
- Elisa asks a tough question many of us all-too-often fall prey to: Are You Using Work As An Excuse To Avoid Life? (I’m definitely the lamest person at most bars and parties — known to “ghost out” early and often, hah!)
- Bigger is Not Better — a fascinating book summary from Farnam Street on Jeff Stibel’s new book Breakpoint: Why the Web will Implode, Search will be Obsolete, and Everything Else you Need to Know about Technology is in Your Brain
- Most of us are drowning in needless “trivia” — Tony Schwartz In Praise of Depth:
“We don’t need more bits and bytes of information, or more frequent updates about each other’s modest daily accomplishments. What we need instead is more wisdom, insight, understanding and discernment — less quantity, higher quality; less breadth and more depth.
The reality is that we each have limited working memories, meaning we can only retain a certain amount of new information in our minds at any given time. If we’re forever flooding the brain with new facts, other information necessarily gets crowded out before it’s been retained in our long-term memory. If you selectively reduce what you’re taking in, then you can hold on to more of what you really want to remember.”
—Tony Schwartz In Praise of Depth
- Loved this TED Talk from Russell Foster on the neuroscience behind sleep. In Why do we sleep? Foster shares “three popular theories about why we sleep, busts some myths about how much sleep we need at different ages — and hints at some bold new uses of sleep as a predictor of mental health.” (h/t Nina V. for the link!)
- Another article in favor of intermittent fasting (and why it’s less ridiculous than it might sound). I do this unintentially half the time out of laziness, hah. The Atlantic on The New Way to Love Food
- OJ is on the outs. The Atlantic on the sharp decline: Misunderstanding Orange Juice as a Health Drink
- I really should be more discerning. Anyone know of a good chocolate tasting course in NYC? Until then, here’s Mark’s Daily Apple on What to Look for When Choosing a High-Quality Dark Chocolate
- Buh bye, Webvan, hello Google and Amazon. Wired on why Online Grocery Shopping Is Back, and This Time It’ll Work
- Russell Brand is a brilliant writer and communicator. He penned two very compelling articles on Philip Seymour Hoffman’s death, the nature of addiction, and the outdated laws that he believes fuel it: My Life without Drugs and Philip Seymour Hoffman is another victim of extremely stupid drug laws.
“I am becoming possessed. The part of me that experienced the negative data, the self, is becoming overwhelmed, I can no longer see where I end and the pain begins. So now I have a choice.
I cannot accurately convey to you the efficiency of heroin in neutralising pain. It transforms a tight, white fist into a gentle, brown wave. From my first inhalation 15 years ago, it fumigated my private hell and lay me down in its hazy pastures and a bathroom floor in Hackney embraced me like a womb.
This shadow is darkly cast on the retina of my soul and whenever I am dislodged from comfort my focus falls there.
It is 10 years since I used drugs or drank alcohol and my life has improved immeasurably. I have a job, a house, a cat, good friendships and generally a bright outlook.
The price of this is constant vigilance because the disease of addiction is not rational.”
—Russell Brand, My Life Without Drugs
- Awesome list of 30 Questions Every Startup And Entrepreneur Should Answer from Bernadette Jiwa
- No way. The blog turned 20 this year! The Guardian in conversation with three internet pioneers
- Ooh, for love or money? Seth Godin on an important distinction on how we do business: Do you love your customers?
- Obsessed with this article from Dan Andrews on The 1000 Day Rule : What Living the Dream Really Looks Like – NAILED IT. Thanks Elisa for sending!
- Laura Simms continues her fantastic Entrepreneur Series with A Three-Step Formula for Creating Solutions That Sell
- Great tips from Freelancer’s Union on How to Cope with Freelance Dry Spells, How to Get Paid What You’re Worth and How Freelancers Are Redefining Success To Be About Value, Not Wealth
- Spruce up your blog posts with 6 Stunning Visuals That Will Make Your Content Memorable, Sharable, and Beautiful
- Belle Beth Cooper is an online tech tools ninja of epic proportions! Check out her awesome beginner’s guide to putting the internet to work for you: How to easily save 60 minutes every day
- The WSJ on why Business Card Digital Replacements just won’t seem to catch on.
- For those who need a profesh refresh: How to Write a Professional Bio For Twitter, LinkedIn, Facebook & Google+
- Loved this DogHouse Diaries comic referenced in Stephanie Pollak’s Your Plans vs. Reality – what to do when it all falls apart:
- Grand slam resource on getting published. Tim Ferris on The Definitive Guide to Writing a Bestseller this Year
- Ryan Stephens saves you the trouble of reading Rework in his incredibly comprehensive write-up! Here are his 50 key lessons from the book
- Building toward 10,000 Hours of Neurosis (or in my case, 100,000?!) Reading might actually help. Turns out Doctors Are Now Prescribing Books to Treat Depression
- On that note, I recently got lost in The School of Life’s site (with an entire section dedicated to “bibliotherapy“) – thanks Monica for the link!
Just for Fun
- Stunning. The 2014 Sony World Photography Awards
- These always crack me up! Here’s Jimmy Kimmel’s Celebrities Reading Mean Tweets #6: